For God gave us a SPIRIT not of FEAR, but of POWER and LOVE and SELF-CONTROL.
                                            2 Tim 1:7

Skinny Doesn't Make you Happy:)

If you’re like most women, you’re on a quest—the quest for a skinnier you. That goal fills your thoughts and marks your days. Every choice you make, every action you take, is always overshadowed by one overwhelming question: “Will this help me lose weight?”

This quest for losing weight is universal, and most women will do just about anything to reach it. If you’re told to add oil to every meal and you’ll be guaranteed to lose weight, you’ll do it. If you’re told to only eat meat and fat and absolutely no carbs, you’ll do it. If you’re told the secret is to eat only grains, nuts, vegetables, and fruit—no meat, no dairy—you’ll do it.

Some women, if they’re told to stand on their heads to be skinny, will ask “How long?” and “Should I point my toes?”

Yes. That seems ridiculous. And it is. But it’s not far from the truth.

The reality, however, is that being skinny isn’t really the goal.

Don’t believe me? Consider this: How many times have you lost a bunch of weight, started feeling like you had arrived, only to pack on the pounds again?

I bet it’s been too many times to count… So many of the women I work with seem to live in that disappointing and despairing place we have aptly named “Yo-Yo Dieting.” And they hate it. And they want to give up.

Yet they try again… and again. With greater resolve and greater determination than before. Only to backslide with a greater thump than the last time.

So why do you fall back into old, self-sabotaging patterns and behaviors? Why do you fall short with weight loss? Why do you get so close to your goal only to stop just shy of it to stumble and fall?

I’ve seen it time and again, and my experience leads me to the same conclusion every time: Your expectations about how you’d feel when you got to that magic number weren’t fulfilled.

And that realization holds the seed for your future success: Skinny doesn’t make you happy.
Sure, being a more healthful you is an awesome thing, but all too often, we believe that reaching our goal weight, that magic number, will guarantee a happier self. But a magic number doesn’t magically change our mental state. And it never will.

No, the reality is that your quest isn’t really about losing weight. Your quest is for a happy, fulfilled life. And once you recognize that—once you own that truth and realize that happiness isn’t directly linked to some arbitrary number on that scale in your bathroom—you can walk away from every being a Yo-Yo Dieter again.

So repeat after me: Skinny doesn’t make me happy. I make me happy.

What do you believe? Will skinny make you happy? Or are you willing to risk being happy now? Chat with me about it in the comments below!


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